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stfuprolifers: kor71: If you think abortions ok, remember what...

Fri, 17 May 2013 03:26:14 -0400

kor71:

If you think abortions ok, remember what Horton says.

Awkward. Dr. Seuss and his wife were really liberal and pro-choice. They’ve even threatened to sue pro-life organizations for using this quote the wrong way (the way you’re doing it actually). I guess you didn’t already know that Horton Hears a Who is about the American occupation of Japan post-WWII. He even dedicated it to his dear Japanese friend.

Mrs. Geisel (Mrs. Seuss) continued donating to Planned Parenthood and advocating for reproductive health and rights after her husband died.

whatfandomisitanyway: (this is in response to my rant here on...

Fri, 17 May 2013 03:19:44 -0400

whatfandomisitanyway:

(this is in response to my rant here on that guy who told his school-career-long quest for this girl who clearly didn’t want him when she whined about guys (like him!!) being dicks aka the original internet Nice Guy™)

i see ur “but she was rude” and raise u one “we only saw his side of the story.”

of course he’s not going to include the parts where she told him no in the beginning because hi that would reveal him for the super creepy butt zit that he is but let’s do a little reading between the lines here and i’m just gonna say right here, let’s look how many times he mentioned her wants and desires

here’s this guy who, we don’t know whether there’s a history with zoey at this point or not, but she did not ask to be his science partner, he had to, in his words, beg the teacher to pair them up. what do u suppose he meant by “come round,” by the way? u don’t invite someone to come round to the library, u suggest to meet up at the library or the cafe or some public spot. where someone “comes round” to is ur house. once asking and denied, okay that’s fair, but instead of work out a place where they could meet, y’know, like a rational and studiously-minded noncreep, he proceeded to try the same thing five times and then passive aggressively do the whole project rather than work with her on her terms.

times zoey’s wants are considered: 0.5 (i’ll give him half a point for sharing that she did say no to him… five times)

after the failed science class ploy (where, need i remind you, he invited a girl to his house five times after being repeatedly told no), he saw fit to send her three valentines. note the “i tried to be romantic,” can also be read as “i tried to be romantic” or “i tried to be romantic” either of which can be easily translated into the truth, which is “u rejected my more outright amorous valentine-coated advances once so rather than take it like a champ i tried again and then one more time until u realized there would be gifts regardless and disposed of them as u saw fit” because you don’t give someone three valentines do u see how that would happen is if the first two were rejected but that somehow wasn’t good enough

times zoey’s wants are considered (to date): 0.5 no points this round sorry bucko

it’s important to note here that he found her at the disco already. she was there independent of his being there, likely with friends or (!!!!) possibly with a date (!!!!) but we don’t know because again, this is only his side of the story !!! so he corners her at the school dance. after the science project and the three valentines, she has clearly realized that “no” just does not work on this guy and feels the need to (!!!!) secretly leave the dance she came to on her own (!!!!) and he lurked for two hours he lurked that is lurking

times zoey’s wants are considered (to date): 0 i’m revoking ur half point that’s disgusting dude

so we’ve now got a total of nine rejections on toby’s scoreboard, that’s impressive. let’s recount: five times he tried to get a girl to his house, three times after that he gave her valentines, and one time he forced her out of what was supposed to be a nice night with friends. he thinks maybe his game isn’t good enough, his game of disregarding every signal he’s been given because clearly if he just plays the right cards she’ll fall into his lap. so he brings big money into the picture. because if she didn’t want to go to his house or even dance with him then she’ll definitely want to spend quality time alone with him at a concert where, depending on the band and the venue, things get notoriously shifty. that’s gonna work. since zoey is now painfully aware that toby will give her things no matter what she does, and, hey, she really loves this band they are great, she won’t let his creepiness spoil this one and gets that lovely night out with friend that he took from her the night of the dance. because hey, free shit is awesome, concerts are great, and she feels hella safer with her friend than she does in the general vicinity of toby

times zoey’s wants are considered (to date): 1 i’ll give u point for knowing what her favorite band is i guess

and now, finally in year 11 he gets the picture that she just isn’t into him. hijacks her status about dudes being dicks, failing to realize that he’s been a dick this whole time, to spew his Nice Guy™ crap in the most vilifying way possible, considering her wants a total of, give or take, one (1) time over the course of four (4) years of one-sided courtship (spoiler: that’s called creeping actually). so yes, sometimes girls are dicks, but sometimes guys just don’t know how to take “no” for an answer in its MANY many forms, feel entitled to any girl they choose, see it as a game, and then get pissed when they lose.

at what point does a girl stop being societally obligated to play nice? at what point are a girl’s feelings of security more important than some dudebro’s shitty ManFeels? at what point can a girl finally stick up for herself against these aggressions and be justified? i say the answer to all of these is: whenever she damn well pleases. if he can ignore her feelings and continue to harass her then she can be “a bit rude” and get away with it.

in short, you fucking go, zoey jones. toby walters is a disgusting self-centered rape-culture-trained ingrown pubic hair. in short, “Im so sick of boys being such dicks” is the most beautiful thing in the world and I want to get it tattooed down my forearm so it’s the last thing boys see as my elbow connects with their creepy little faces. in short, four for you, zoey jones.

irnjustkitten: this.

Fri, 17 May 2013 03:13:34 -0400

irnjustkitten:

this.

"Some men who want to compliment random women on the street are genuinely good guys who just don’t..."

Fri, 17 May 2013 03:11:13 -0400

“Some men who want to compliment random women on the street are genuinely good guys who just don’t understand why their comments might be unwelcome. Some men who want to compliment random women on the street are creepy predators. Most are somewhere in between, and guess what? I don’t know you, I don’t know your life, and I have no idea if you’re going to leave it at “Hey, you look good in that dress!” or follow it up with “But you’d look better without it! Har har! C’mon, where’re you going? I know you heard me! Fucking cunt, nobody wants your fat ass anyway, bitch.”

When you compliment a random woman who doesn’t know you, no matter how nice you are about it, there’s a good chance she’s going to freak out internally because for all she knows, you could be that latter type. And I get that it’s really unfair that women would just assume that about you. I get that it sucks that sometimes, expressing totally reasonable opinions like “hey you’re hot” will make women terrified of you or furious at you. That’s not fair.

But if you’re going to lay the blame for that somewhere, for fuck’s sake, don’t blame the woman. Blame all the guys who have called her a bitch and a cunt for ignoring their advances. Blame all the guys who may have harassed, abused, or assaulted her in the past. Blame all the people who may never do such a thing themselves, but who were quick to blame her and tell her to just get over it. Blame the fact that if she stops and talks to you and then something bad happens, people will blame her for stopping and talking to you.”

- Why You Shouldn’t Tell That Random Girl On The Street That She’s Hot » Brute Reason (via brute-reason)

^^^^^^^^^^^^

(via misandry-mermaid)

You know, I’ll go a step further and say - there are no “men who want to compliment random women on the street [who] are genuinely good guys who just don’t understand why their comments might be unwelcome.” There are guys who pretend that they don’t understand why their comments are unwelcome. But the man who whistles out his car window at me while I’m waiting for a light, the guy who stares at me while I ride past on my bike, the guy who says “Hey beautiful!” at me and my friend as we’re talking at an outdoor cafe - none of those guys want to make me feel good.

Not a single one.

I keep hearing about this guy! The good guy who catcalls and doesn’t get how it’s wrong, the nice guy who just wants to tell you you have beautiful eyes. And every time I’m told about that guy, it’s so that I don’t react, don’t glare, don’t respond negatively. Because who knows! Maybe he really super meant it in his heart and was just trying to pay you a compliment.

Because here’s the thing - here’s how I know that the nice guy ain’t real; because I always do react, always glare, always respond negatively. I always say, “No, that wasn’t okay. Don’t do that to me again.” And a nice guy? Would come back with, “Oh, man, I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to make you feel bad. You’re right. I won’t do that again.” A nice guy who didn’t get it would say, “Wow, I didn’t think about it that way. Is this something that you think a lot of women feel?”

And that never happens - what happens is I get called names, or have coffee thrown at my face, or get shoved up against a wall, or get followed for fifteen blocks, or get shouted out from six inches away by a man who’s six inches taller and fifty pounds bigger than I am. What happens is that I’m shown, again and again and again, that these “compliments” are prologues to a story this guy’s just desperate to tell, the story of him scaring me, hurting me, making sure I know my place. And he can tell the story as loud as he wants, because he can always fall back on, “I’m a good guy! She’s the one who started it! I was just trying to pay the bitch a compliment.”

So stop telling me that there are good guys out there who just don’t understand, because there aren’t. What there are, are guys who will pretend to be good guys, right up until you don’t smile at them. And then they show who they really are.

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Why isn't New Orleans Mother's Day parade shooting a 'national tragedy'?

Thu, 16 May 2013 13:39:11 -0400

Why isn't New Orleans Mother's Day parade shooting a 'national tragedy'?:

cs-k:

stfuconservatives:

“So I shouldn’t be surprised that the Mother’s Day Parade shooting has largely been forgotten. On Sunday, shots were fired into a crowd during a parade in the New Orleans 7th ward. Police said they saw three suspects running from the scene.

This is the largest mass shooting in the United States where the shooters were still at large after the crime was committed. Think about that for a minute. From Columbine to Virginia Tech to Fort Hill to Aurora, all the shooters were either killed or apprehended on site. But the person or people responsible for shooting 19 Americans are still free.”

One of the people who got shot was an antiviolence blogger. Somehow we aren’t seeing massive solidarity for New Orleans or the entire city going on police lockdown to find the perpetrators. Two reasons: 1) This mostly affected Black people, and we all know how much the media and the police give any fucks about Black people in New Orleans; 2) This was a gun crime, so we can’t criticize it because GUNS ARE FREEDOM!

Wait what…? I hadn’t even heard about this! The fuck.

salmonking: bemusedlybespectacled: kekkes: Someone left this...

Thu, 16 May 2013 13:37:50 -0400

salmonking:

bemusedlybespectacled:

kekkes:

Someone left this on the table I went to go eat at so I took it and true

Every time I see this go around, the first two paragraphs are cut. Fixing that.

I kinda want to live in this strange fleshling AU.

8 Rules of Assertiveness

Thu, 16 May 2013 03:00:00 -0400

tw: sexual assault, emotional abuse

Two months ago, I attended a meeting of my county’s sexual assault survivors support group. To my dismay, the group is on hiatus because of poor attendance. On the one hand, it could be a good thing that so few people need that kind of support, but I doubt that’s why people stopped coming. It’s probably that the other attendees are like me and would really benefit from the support group, but can’t make it to the meetings because of work, family obligations, etc.

I only got to attend one meeting, and it helped me a lot. The topic of discussion was assertiveness. I found my notes from that meeting while I was cleaning the living room earlier, and I thought I’d share what I’d learned. These are useful skills for everyone, not just sexual assault survivors.

First of all, they began the discussion by saying, “Assertiveness cannot prevent assault if another person has chosen to assault you. They made that choice. It has nothing to do with anything you did or didn’t do, and it’s not your fault. However, when someone has chosen to violate our boundaries, it makes it difficult to be assertive in the future.
The following is a list of guidelines for assertiveness in everyday life.”

1. Choose your battles: If you know that asserting yourself with a particular person gets you nowhere, ask yourself if you should distance yourself from them

2. Use first person (“I” messages), be brief, choose your words

3. When necessary, drop it and leave. If the other person is responding poorly, you’ve done all you can. Feel free to walk away.

4. Be calm, firm, and in control. Any emotion is normal and okay. With safe people, you can and should be allowed to be emotional and assertive. The two are not mutually exclusive. It’s okay to get emotional, but stay in control of your behavior.

5. Rehearse. Prepare a statement if necessary.

6. Don’t apologize! Setting boundaries is always appropriate.

7. Repeat yourself. It’s okay to say something more than once. Paraphrasing sometimes helps.

8. After the fact, ask yourself how it when. Evaluate what went right and what went wrong. Are there lessons for you to learn for next time, or is the other person unwilling to cooperate?

And remember, you always have the right to choose who you do and don’t want in your life.

Okay, I admit it. I'm ashamed to be white sometimes.

Thu, 16 May 2013 02:45:19 -0400

But not for the reasons you’d think. I don’t get “white guilt” so much as white fremdschade. I don’t want to be associated with Euro-Americans who honest-to-god think that POCs *being mean* to them because of their race is in any way comparable to systematic oppression because of one’s race.

cute things Diamond does

Wed, 15 May 2013 13:06:32 -0400

nocakeno:

diamondtoothypop:

She doesn’t get many chances to do this (because Cake and I try to keep her still and relaxed so she doesn’t hurt herself), but when she crawls around, she stomps on her front legs and kind of drags her hind leg behind her, kicking off with it once in a while. She marches with her front paws.

She naps all da days. Today she napped so peacefully she didn’t even need her painkillers.

Cake made her a sling and we carry her around in it. She listens when we tell her not to squiggle-wiggle.

She touches her nose to people’s fingertips when they point at her face. She offers her chin for scratching and smiles. She sticks out her front paw when she wants people to hold her little hand.

She gets really happy and excited when I sing her Om Tara tuttara ture svaha and Om mani padme hom

Her body stocking makes her look like a fat little mermaid

Today I took her collar off for a little bit and she washed her hands.

She also washed me a little, which wasn’t necessary, but I still appreciate the thought.

And when she wears her collar, she washes the cone.

"In the 101 top-grossing family films…from 1990 to 2004, of the over 4,000 characters in these films,..."

Wed, 15 May 2013 03:32:45 -0400

“In the 101 top-grossing family films…from 1990 to 2004, of the over 4,000 characters in these films, 75% overall were male, 83% of characters in crowds were male, 83% of narrators were male, and 72% of speaking were male. When the American Psychological Association commented on this research, they said, ‘This gross under-representation of women or girls in films with family-friendly content reflects a missed opportunity to present a broad spectrum of girls and women in roles that are non-sexualised.’”

- Natasha Walter, Living Dolls: The Return of Sexism, pages 69-70, 2010. (via bitemebeautiful)

Bringing this back as people have started reblogging this again and EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW THIS.

(via bitemebeautiful)

pollums: how sad it is that we create a society where we raise boys to base their self worth on...

Wed, 15 May 2013 03:30:10 -0400

pollums:

how sad it is that we create a society where we raise boys to base their self worth on whether or not they can trick unsuspecting women into sleeping with them and we raise girls to base their self worth on how long they lasted until they were tricked

Just North of Something Important: A side note about the whole Angelina Jolie thing is that until a few...

Wed, 15 May 2013 03:29:52 -0400

Just North of Something Important: A side note about the whole Angelina Jolie thing is that until a few...:

feathers:

barthel:

A side note about the whole Angelina Jolie thing is that until a few years ago there was a really strong economic disincentive for women to get tested for the gene. If it was found, it would be part of their official medical history, and they could be charged much higher insurance rates. They had to hope that a male relative (ideally their father) would get the testing done, since it didn’t put men at risk and so wouldn’t affect their insurance rates. That’s no longer the case: Obamacare made the practice illegal.

"In the past twenty years, corporate profits have quadrupled while the corporate tax percent has..."

Wed, 15 May 2013 03:29:07 -0400

“In the past twenty years, corporate profits have quadrupled while the corporate tax percent has dropped by half. The payroll tax, paid by workers, has doubled. In effect, corporations have decided to let middle-class workers pay for national investments that have largely benefited businesses over the years. The greater part of basic research, especially for technology and health care, has been conducted with government money. Even today 60% of university research is government-supported. Corporations use highways and shipping lanes and airports to ship their products, the FAA and TSA and Coast Guard and Department of Transportation to safeguard them, a nationwide energy grid to power their factories, and communications towers and satellites to conduct online business.”

- Atlas Shrugged Off Taxes (via azspot)

"You mean the generation that paid three times as much for college to enter a job market with triple..."

Wed, 15 May 2013 03:26:22 -0400

“You mean the generation that paid three times as much for college to enter a job market with triple the unemployment isn’t interested in purchasing the assets of the generation who just blew an enormous housing bubble and kept it from popping through quantitative easing and out-and-out federal support? Curious.”

- When comments are better than the article, Atlantic edition (“The Cheapest Generation: Why Millennials arent’ buying cars or houses, and what that means for the economy”)

Every time someone says we’re a lazy and entitled generation I’m going to show them this

They should be happy most of us haven’t moved to the moon yet

That actually sounds like a good idea at this point

(via setfabulazerstomaximumcaptain)

singing-songs-from-the-balcony: fairytalesandfantasyx: letsfuck...

Wed, 15 May 2013 03:25:17 -0400

singing-songs-from-the-balcony:

fairytalesandfantasyx:

letsfuckingcuddleok:

nothingsgoingtochange:

Someone give this guy a motherfuckin’ certificate.

I reblog every time

this guy deserves more than a certificate

He deserves a certificate for continually making unwanted advances toward a girl who made it clear she didn’t want any of it&then because she didn’t reciprocate his weird obsession she’s being called a dick? Um no.

I’m with the person who wrote that last comment.

Hey, Toby, did you ever stop and wonder if you’re one of those dicks she’s talking about? Learn to take no for an answer.

animejackburton: mamamantis: fuckyeahsexeducation: If I were to make t-shirts that said “Save...

Wed, 15 May 2013 03:17:48 -0400

animejackburton:

mamamantis:

fuckyeahsexeducation:

If I were to make t-shirts that said “Save people, not boobies”, with proceeds going to breast cancer organizations (that aren’t the Susan G. Komen foundation or any other organizations with similar practices) would people buy them?

yes. yes. yes. yes. yes. yes. yes. please do this

Y E S

nocakeno: fleas keep popping up in my room i am angry Mine too :/

Tue, 14 May 2013 13:02:55 -0400

nocakeno:

fleas keep popping up in my room

i am angry

Mine too :/

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Tue, 14 May 2013 13:01:27 -0400

fuckyeahfeminists: oops posted to wrong blog “>انا قلبي مساكن شعبية: whoistorule: i hate unpaid...

Tue, 14 May 2013 00:36:00 -0400

fuckyeahfeminists:

oops posted to wrong blog

“>انا قلبي مساكن شعبية: whoistorule: i hate unpaid internships so fucking muchunpaid…

wagatwe:

ostentatiousramblings:

thearcanetheory:

whoistorule:

i hate unpaid internships so fucking much

unpaid internships exploit college graduates, most of whom have exorbitant student loans, into working 30-40 hours weeks for no pay

at which time they start owing massive amounts of interest on their student loans

they often don’t have time to search for other jobs

it’s really only practical for wealthy people whocan afford to work without pay to make their resumes look prettier and network (again without pay) to get a job

under the vain hopes that they’ll get hired at that company after their internship is up

which frequently does not happen

or to bolster their resume so some other company will hire them

and if they do get a job at that company the company now doesn’t have to pay for their job training, which they’re legally allowed to do

all of which is unconstitutional because it’s fucking illegal to make someone work for no pay

it’s in the thirteenth amendment

so why is my generation living at home?

because no one will fucking hire and pay them a living wage that will cover rent and food and their student loans, that they have to pay because in order to get that unpaid internship in the first place they have to attend a university that is costing them between $35,000-$60,000 a year

and the debt for those loans is the only type of debt in this country that is unforgivable

that’s right even if you declare bankruptcy and have nothing left, you will still owe your student loans

so in conclusion

fuck everything in this broken system

and also pay your employees

thank

PREACH

This is all super valid, but unpaid positions are volunteer positions. Don’t do it if you think it’s such a waste of time and energy.

I feel as if it’s better not to do something if you’re going to gripe about it. Either don’t do it or don’t gripe about it. Pick a side.

I’m an unpaid intern at an amazing State Assemblymember’s office. They TRIED to make room in the budget to pay for me. Didn’t work. So his ENTIRE STAFF compensates me (and the other interns) in other ways: getting us in touch with all the right people, making sure we have food and water at work, taking us to high-profile events, letting us take lead on big-time projects, etc.

I’m not saying it’s fair to have interns overworked and not pay them a penny. But there are plenty of other ways unpaid interns are compensated. And again, it’s a volunteer position. Don’t do it if you don’t want to. You’re doing it because you either are, or are hoping to get, something out of it.

That’s life. You pay your dues and you either make it or you don’t. The most you can do is try. Times suck all around. We all have burdens to bear. Instead of whining about it, let’s at least try to make what we can of the hand our generation has been dealt. And FYI the system’s been broken a long time, it won’t be fixed overnight.

Just because “that’s life” it doesn’t mean it’s fair. It’s great that you are able to survive off of connections, going to events, and being paid at work, but not everyone is.

Unpaid internships are a privilege. The economy is crap now…you know how much harder it is to get an entry-level job without an unpaid internship? They are being exploited. Some people cannot spend time working without being compensated.

It is perfectly ok to complain about something that isn’t fair. Don’t like people like the above convince you otherwise.

Please Google unpaid internships, exploitation, and income inequality.

From AlterNet:

How Unpaid Internships Perpetuate Rampant Inequality in the US

Internship culture has become a source of class division, favoring the privileged, excluding others from opportunities granted to their better-off peers.

“Recent graduates, disturbed by the dearth of job opportunities, began to take internships as a last resort to stay competitive in the labor market. Although an internship used to be akin to an apprenticeship—a temporary stint of unpaid, hands-on labor resulting in an eventual job offer—the explosion of both college students and recent graduates taking internships no longer guarantees a paid position. Instead, as more and more young people demonstrated they were willing to supply an unpaid labor force so long as it was framed as an “internship,” internships have become a means for companies and non-profit organizations to re-package once paying jobs and cut corners in a tight economy.

Internships are the new entry-level job—the same duties and basic experience, only this time without compensation or benefits.”

Internships are called internships and not a “volunteer” position for a reason. It’s seen as a necessary step to even have a SLIGHT chance at getting a paying job.

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Tue, 14 May 2013 00:32:26 -0400